So … a number of questions here … a mini-manner questionnaire so to speak!
- Are good manners important?
- Do “manners maketh the man”?
- What constitutes good manners in your house?
- Are there consequences if manners are not what you expect them to be?
- Whose job is it to educate youngsters in good manners? Parents? School? Society?
- How do you react to displays of bad manners?
What constitutes good manners often depends on the situation, including how well you know the people you’re with and whether it’s a business situation. But the basic rule is, try not to offend or embarrass another person. (It’s part of the Golden Rule.)
I expect that at home, including “please” and “thank you,” and I will still take my kids to task, even though they’re in their forties.
Other times, it has still depended on the people around me. I have been known to talk back to bosses when necessary, to speak sharply to fellow employees when necessary — and, yes, on occasion, to take it quietly and go to my room and write a letter.
Furthermore, I don’t forget.
Are good manners important?
Definitely.
Do “manners maketh the man”?
I think so. It’s the thing on which we base our first impressions.
What constitutes good manners in your house?
Please and thank you, consideration about others’ feelings, and writing thank you notes. Walt never taught his sons what he was taught, to always walk on the outside of a woman.
Are there consequences if manners are not what you expect them to be?
In my own kids, reminders.
Whose job is it to educate youngsters in good manners? Parents? School? Society?
Should start with parents, with reinforcement by school and consequences from society.
How do you react to displays of bad manners?
Being a wimp, I generally igore them, but it does make an impression.
Are good manners important?
Definitely. They’re necessary for peaceful interaction with our fellows (wish our representatives had been taught some manners as children).
Do “manners maketh the man”?
To an extent – they definitely make the first impression.
What constitutes good manners in your house?
Pretty standard – please and thank you, consideration of others’ feelings.
Are there consequences if manners are not what you expect them to be?
For household members, reminders are given.
Whose job is it to educate youngsters in good manners? Parents? School? Society?
Definitely parents first. I like Bev’s answer.
How do you react to displays of bad manners?
Usually by withdrawing somewhat – I don’t want to be around that person. And, like l’empress, I don’t forget.
I thought some manners were important. However, the little French lady and I were waiting to cross at an intersection. Their was a bunch of people waiting. Some lady…? in one of those handicap carts put in reverse and backed over my wife’s foot and rammed into her body. Everybody saying, “watch where your going!!!”….The lady just said, “I don’t have eyes in back of my head, you know.”
I guess that was her apology. My wife limped for 3 days and could not wear regular shoes. She had to wear sandals.
Yesterday somebody walked into me while texting. I sure got a dirty look. I won’t move out of their way anymore.
question 2: No…God maketh the man..then he maketh woman. He got it right on the second try. At least that is what my wife told me.
question 3…My wife’s idea of good manners are much stricter than mine. It was just the way we were raised.
Good manners were expected in our family but what constitute good manners was much more severe in my wife’s family. My family was a little more relaxed about it.
Her family had a lot more rules.
question 4..Who’s job to teach manners? It starts with the parents. I saw a kid yesterday that was holding up the elevator, causing a ruckus, he was playing with his iPhone.
Everyone was waiting. His mother just smiled weakly and said, “His father said he was ready for a cellphone.”
The kid was about 7 years old. I think his father probably got it to shut the kid up. “The electronic babysitter.”
final question: It depends on how bad it is. A 7 year old kid does not know any better, but a mother should. I might make a comment to the mother. (My wife did!) I am a glarer.
I glare. That doesn’t really work.
Now I bump into people who are texting and not watching where they are going. If they drop their phone. Too bad!!! Pay attention!!!!
Thank you for reminding me: users who display lack of consideration for the people around them because of electronic toys need to be reprimanded immediately. If they are underage and accompanied by parents, the parents need it too.